More Rejection, Acceptance, Controversy & Haters In 24 Hours!

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Dear Friends,

I loved the amazingly helpful feedback I got in the Shot Down By HuffPost!–What Can Help A Mom with Bipolar During Setbacks post I published on Thursday.

Thanks to all of you for taking time to contribute such thoughtful replies!

Yesterday’s events turned out to be ironic in light of Thursday’s Huffington post rejection – it was so bizarre, in fact, that I couldn’t resist waiting until next Thursday to publish this post!

Yesterday, April Fool’s Day, I

Woke up, fell out of bed, dragged a comb across my head

After a cup of coffee, I sat down to check my email. I noticed a reply from an editor at The Mighty and my heart started to thump a bit faster. My cold palms became sweaty.

A couple weeks ago I submitted a post to The Mighty. It was about my postiive experience with electroconvulsive therapy (ECT). I knew that due to ECT’s major controversy there was a strong chance it would be rejected, but after doing The Mighty site search I found two posts that only briefly touched upon ECT. There was nothing like my detailed account.

It was worth a try.

Taking a deep breath, I opened up The Mighty email and read,

Dear Dyane,

Thanks for sharing your story! I’m going to pass on publishing this, but I hope you’ll submit again! Let me know if you have any questions.


Stinky Editor

That inevitable sting of rejection hit my solar plexus. At least it didn’t hurt as much as the other rejections, but it still, in a word, sucked. But this time I wanted to do something different besides simply sulk. The editor offered to answer my questions, so I was going to go for it!. I wrote, 

“Dear Editor
Thanks for getting back to me so quickly about my submission. I wish everyone else was like that! I appreciate your offering me the chance to ask questions, so I’ll take you up on it. I’d love to get just a little feedback. By sharing with me about what didn’t work, you’ll be helping me in terms of my future submissions and you’ll be doing a good deed! 🙂
Also, if I edited the piece based on your suggestions, would you be open to a resubmission?
I know you’re busy  and I’d be very grateful for anything you can share.
thanks so much,
The Loser Dyane

Then I did my best to shake off the ‘ol rejection heebie jeebies and get on with my day. I helped my kids get ready, took them to school, and survived driving among the excessively aggressive parent drivers brandishing coffee mugs as they raced around the school’s parking lot.

I returned home intending to work on my book; I wanted to forget all about The Mighty.

Later on I checked my email and noticed a message from The Huffington Post.

First words that came to my mind?

Ah, shit. Another rejection….great.

I opened it up. It wasn’t a rejection.

They published my ECT post! I submitted the ECT post to Huffington the same day I sent it to The Mighty, as both outlets allow writers to submit previously published posts and sometimes they share content.

I screamed with triumphant glee. Poor Lucy, wondering what the hell was going on, began barking loud enough to wake the dead.



I knew that this ECT article would receive very different feedback than my postpartum bipolar article, and I was right. But I went into this with my eyes open. I’ve been on both sides of the psych fence: I’ve been anti-psychiatry before I became pro-psychiatry. 

So I was fully prepared for the anti-psychiatry brigade, the Dr. Peter Breggin groupies, and a bevy of anti-ECT readers to descend and write all kinds of negative comments. 

It didn’t matter to me what their comments said. 

The bottom line was that I needed to share my truth, my experience.

In grade school I memorized the the Bill of Rights, in which our First Amendment states:

“Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof; or abridging the freedom of speech, or of the press; or the right of the people peaceably to assemble, and to petition the Government for a redress of grievances.”

I treasure my freedom of speech more than ever and I worked hard to get this chance to use it. 

So far I’ve only responded to certain comments. There are some seriously out-there comments that are a lost cause when it comes to my trying to explain anything.

I would love it if you could visit this article and see what I’m talking about.

One anti-ECT reader mentions that “bipolar was invented in 1995” and she asked me for a list of all my Dad’s doctors’ names.  She also wrote other colorful comments – clearly this was the day’s excitement for her.  

I shouldn’t be too glib – these are all human beings after all. I’m just grateful that I don’t need to be in the same room with those who oppose my point of view.

So that was my April Fool’s day – a rejection and acceptance of a hotly controversial subject close to my heart.

Without further adieu, here’s the link, and as long as you don’t tell me that bipolar was invented in 1995, and you’re respectful, I’m fine with your disagreeing with anything in the post! 

I’ll see you ’round next Friday, if not sooner, because I had some other really weird, challenging things happen to me within the same twenty-four-hour period – these events brought out the Daenerys Targaryen in me!!!


I can’t wait to share with you what happened!

In the meantime, be well, dear bloggers!




Dyane’s memoir Birth of a New Brain – Healing from Postpartum Bipolar Disorder will be published by Post Hill Press in 2017.


Dy’s Deep Thoughts: Minivan Stick Family Bumper Stickers



Happy 2016!

Welcome to Dy’s Deep Thoughts

Every month I plan on writing about my deep thoughts in the tradition of Saturday Night Live’s Deep Thoughts by Jack Handey. For a glimpse of the Handey thought process, which is about as deep as the edge of a piece of tissue paper, please watch this:

I’ve been meaning to write about stick figure bumper stickers for months, but I kept putting it off as I wasn’t ready to go on record with my innermost feelings.

However, after spending all day Wednesday driving home along busy highways chock full of minivans, I kept spotting these uber-sticky bumperstickers.

It seemed providential that I take some time to share my theory today. 

I admit that this post is quite controversial. Future Dy’s Deep Thoughts pieces won’t be quite as contentious. (At least I think they won’t be.) But seriously, I hope not to offend any of you who happen to own a minivan or a Maserati sporting a stick figure family bumpersticker. I’ll still follow your blog! And I promise to continue liking and commenting on your posts! 

We can agree to disagree just this once. Yes?

My viewpoint is fairly simple. (Which means this post might actually be brief!)

The first time I spotted this:


It seemed like the driver was bragging, i.e.

Oh, look at me – I have this big family; I’m so special. Not to mention I have a Range Rover that’s worth $84,000!!!

The Church Lady said it all:

A more macabre thought came to mind: what if a family that lost a child saw this bumpersticker? Isn’t it heartless to display this image to other drivers who have children who died? I think it’s beyond obnoxious. Eventually I’d come across a minivan that had “R.I.P.” at the top of one of the children stick figures. I felt terrible for them, but I thought it was beautiful that they memorialized their child. That was one bumpersticker I could accept with open arms because of the parents’ wish to always remember their little one.

Apart from a memorial sticker, by now it’s clear that I find this trend to be utterly obnoxious. It turns out that many others agree with me, and there are some hilarious (including some extremely ribald) parodies of these stickers.

For a giggle and to marvel at the creativity that’s out there in the world, I advise that you do a Google image search using terms images of stick figure bumper stickers and  images of zombie stick figure bumper stickers

Recently I wrote about finally watching Game of Thrones as well as discovering the hilarious recap series Gay of Thrones by Jonathan Van Ness. I thought it would be entertaining to create a Game of Thrones-themed stick figure family bumper sticker.

For those of you unfamiliar with the show, Game of Thrones contains graphic, medieval-style scenes in which entire families of various “Houses” are dispatched. But it has appeared that someone else beat me to it! I’ll spare you the gory images – you can find them easily enough on your own…

At least I’m not the only one who feels this way.

images-2I’m pleased that Grumpy Cat and I share the same sentiment!

See you next week when I’ll be writing about subjects such as bipolar disorder and perinatal mental health, but today was the day for a levity break. I hope you all have a good weekend!!!

Love, Dyane

Dyane’s memoir Birth of a New Brain – Healing from Postpartum Bipolar Disorder with a foreword by Dr. Walker Karraa (author of Transformed by Postpartum Depression: Women’s Stories of Trauma and Growth) will be published by Post Hill Press in 2017.