ARC’s, Anxieties, Insecurities, and More




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Holding my first galley, or advanced review copy (ARC)


Charging the ARC with positive crystal hippie energy.

Hey, before you make fun of me, I live with a geologist so we have tons of crystals in this house. Moreover, I live in a hippie town, so I figured, why the heck not??? I charged the ARC for an hour before I sent it to my dream endorser who requested a hard copy for consideration. Stay tuned for the outcome…


Happy Friday everyone!

This week has been all about the ARC.

The what?

The advanced review copy, or ARC. Many people don’t know what the acronym stands for, including some authors! The ARC is the more recent term for a galley, which is an advance copy of your book that’s sent to book reviewers, endorsers, and the press.

This pre-publication copy doesn’t quite look like a book – the pages are simply bound and it might resemble a college term paper. Sometimes the copy hasn’t been fully edited. The cover art isn’t usually included. (For two cool links that will explain more about ARC’s and how to make your own, please visit here and here.)

Sometimes reviewers want the ARC via computer, such as a PDF file. Other times they want a hard copy printed out. Today I sent out my first hard copy to an incredible bestselling author. I’m superstitious so please forgive me for holding off on naming names until I get an answer  I’m crossing my fingers and toes that I’ll get good news in the near future! Even if I don’t get the endorsement, I’ll write about what happens. This endorsement, or “blurb” will appear at the top of the front cover. (Click here for helpful articles about attaining blurbs.)




I’ve been extremely anxious about sending the galley to this famous author. I’ve procrastinated all week, but today after a “pep text” from the gifted author/journalist Greg Archer who has interacted with 95% of the most famous, talented people on the planet (check out his blog Know Place Like Home) I sat down and forced myself to do it.

I had purchased a beautiful card to accompany my book. My hands shook so badly that I screwed up while writing the title of one of the author’s books – how embarrassing!!! Since I paid $7 for the Papyrus greeting card, I just did my best to correct it! I’m keeping it real! (This is the card I sent – I love their cards so much! The Halloween ones are the best I’ve ever seen…)



Although I tried to mute or unfollow any social media outlet I thought might share the Demi Lovato Situation, I didn’t get everything, so I encountered announcements of a red carpet extravaganza event.  My insecurities were triggered each time I spotted the photos and press releases. But it wasn’t healthy to keep cursing Demi Lovato & her high-rolling production team to the darkest corners of Hades – I needed to move on once and for all. 

My wise daughter Avonlea told me, “Mommy, even if you were chosen, you know you would have freaked out going to New York and being on that panel with Demi Lovato!” and she was right. It would have been too much – I’m not ready for that kind of media exposure. My social anxiety would have been through the roof.

My close friend and mental health advocate/blogger extraordinaire Kitt O’Malley read my mind when I told her it would’ve been too difficult. She reminded me how something stressful (like filming and flying to New York for the red carpet/panel discussion with Demi Lovato) could trigger hypomania. I’m 99.9% sure it would have been the case for me. The rejection was a blessing in disguise.

***Better Late Than Never: At Last I Have An Author Website!***

After procrastinating for several years, I bought a domain name on Wix for $24 for one year. I opted for Wix’s month-to-month Premium Plan at $7/month. I could’ve signed up for a longer subscription time resulting in a lower monthly cost, but I wanted to try it out for a few months, and then decide.

If you take a peek, please keep in mind I’ve only just begun to play around with the site, and there are some sample sections up that have nothing to do with me or my book! Please sign up for the mailing list. Also note that Miss Lucy is my media inquiries canine associate for the time being.

***Insecurities (Yet Again!)***



I’ve started reading bestselling author Joanna Penn’s book and I really like the useful information and her down-to-earth writing style. Some of the sections don’t apply to me, but that doesn’t matter – I read them anyway because they’re brief and interesting. I definitely recommend you read this book, especially if you have insecurities as a writer! I’ll write more about this book as I go along. Here’s the nutshell description:

“Being a writer is not just about typing. It’s also about surviving the rollercoaster of the creative journey. Self-doubt, fear of failure, the need for validation, perfectionism, writer’s block, comparisonitis, overwhelm, and much more.

This book collects the mindset issues that writers experience, that I have been through myself over the last nine years and that perhaps you will experience at different times on the creative journey. Each small chapter tackles a possible issue and then offers an antidote so that you can dip in and out over time. It includes excerpts from my own personal journals as well as quotes from well-known writers.”


Joanna Penn is a New York Times and USA Today bestselling author of thrillers (as J.F.Penn) and non-fiction, a professional speaker and award-winning entrepreneur. Her site, is regularly voted one of the Top 10 sites for writers.

And now I’m about to enjoy an episode of Shetland, a murder mystery set against the stunning Scottish backdrop of the Shetland Isles. I’m addicted, and I’m not ashamed! My Scottish collie Lucy has genetic roots from this rugged part of the world, so I have her watch it with me.


It’s really well done, and it’s no surprise that Shetland has earned rave reviews. During the first ten minutes, I couldn’t understand the thick Scottish accents and I set the disc aside, disappointed. I’m so glad I gave the series a second chance. All I needed to do was to select the subtitles option, and everything became clear. Let me know if you’ve seen it!


Actor Douglas Henshall as Detective Inspector Jimmy Perez

Have a good weekend, and say hello in the comments!




Dyane Harwood’s memoir Birth of a New Brain – Healing from Postpartum Bipolar Disorder with a foreword by Dr. Carol Henshaw (co-author of The Modern Management of Perinatal Psychiatry) will be published by Post Hill Press in October.

It’s available for paperback pre-sales on Amazon at this link – Kindle pre-sales coming this summer!


34 thoughts on “ARC’s, Anxieties, Insecurities, and More

    • I thought of you today, Vic, on my walk with Lucy. Due to laziness, I was tempted to record another jiggly video for this’s week post, but then I thought you wouldn’t like that!!! 😉

      • Whatever you decide to post is a-okay with me! Besides it is a nice change up to actually see and hear your voice.

      • I’ll wait until my hair grows a little longer. I chopped half my hair off due to an unfortunate smelting accident.

  1. Congratulations on getting an ARC! That’s fantastic! Here’s hoping that famous author loves your book, as I’m sure he or she will.

    I’m so sorry about the Demi Lovato situation. I agree with your wise daughter–flying to New York would have been very difficult. Still, I hope that that improves.

    Have a great weekend!

    • I’m sorry to be late with replies – I hate doing that! I sense you’re very understanding when it comes to such things. 😉 I hope the famous author will help a neophyte out!

      I’m so glad we’ve connected and I’ll continue to support you…it’s a total joy! I hope your Monday is going well, and I’ll “see”you soon on Twitter, your blog, Freakbook, etc. Xo

  2. Thanks for sharing your book writing and publishing journey with us. Have learned so much from you.

    Reframe your subjective experience of rejection by Demi Lovato’s documentary production team. They filmed only three stories of people living in mental health recovery. They considered you! They never considered me. Not sure how many mental health advocates they interviewed, but I’m proud of you. They HONORED you by finding and interviewing you. Hold your head high.

    • I love sharing the journey….and I’m so blessed to have your support along the way. I really am.

      Per your wise advice, I’ve reframed the Lovatian Experience! They considered me because I founded a DBSA Chapter…if you were in the running, they would have LOVED you because you’re a gifted, passionate, articulate speaker!!!

      No matter….water under the bridge, and yes, I was honored to be considered.

      I’m holding my head high. I feel a lot better today about it! It helped quite a bit reading your comment, my friend. XOXOXOXXOXOXOX

  3. Hmm now I know where my captain has been or what she’s been up to. Now I learn terms like ARC and galley and all… Bravo. Look as for that New York crew and all… That hype may have just have been hyper for you and any public embarrassment or breakdown would have caused tremendous damage to you , yours and your book. Look at it this way and decide lady to close that ‘nerving’ chapter. Now what next, hmm I wish I were a best selling blablabla author… My blurb or etc would have been automatic. I sometimes wonder if those ‘bestsellers’ didn’t start out on step nothing like some of us. I read Danielle Steel’s recount of her journey and the beginning was so dreary. So, one day you’ll be past this stage and famous too in your own respect. That murder movie, no not for me even if Ella had any Scottish genes. I don’t do mysteries, murders and all I can’t even continue taking criminal cases because they are so ‘draining’ on me. Glad you are still in your league mindful of the obvious anxiety. Loads of love and oh I have sent you some emails which beg for a read at least. Lol

    • Hey Lady M,

      I love your comment – thank you for addressing everything so well. I’m doing much better with that Demi Lovato/New York stuff. That chapter is Closed!

      You know I have other things on my mind, now, apart from blurbing, and I’m going to face my new challenges differently, with my counselor’s support and also my dear friends such as Ella’s mom!

      As far as mysteries and murder shows go, I never cared for them at all! It’s funny that my tastes have changed, but I’m enjoying them so much. I understand why they wouldn’t appeal to you, though!!! (You had me smiling with that comment about Ella & Scottish genes!) Loads of love and I’ll be emailing you again….guaranteed. XoXoXo

  4. Blessings in disguise are always a good thing, even if we can’t identify them as such at the time.

    Congrats on the new site! I’ll have to get over there and check it out soon. Hope you have a terrific week & God bless!

    • Thanks, my sunshine friend! Anytime I see you’ve stopped by, I automatically feel a little better. I hope your week has gotten off to a great start. I just realized I completely forgot to reblog on Friday – can you forgive me??????? I have something else scheduled for this week, but I WILL do it. In fact, I’ll go remind myself this very minute before I forget. Sending you love and hugs, always & always! XOXOOXOXOO Dy

  5. I continue to have the feeling that your book is going to be a huge success—You’re gonna be famous! The web site looks fantastic and you’ve only just begun. All the angst and excitement you’re feeling are part of joy of writing. I’ve read two books by Steven Pressfield that you might also enjoy, “The War of Art” and “Turning Pro,” which may actually be somewhat belated for you. 🙂 Anyway, I’m sharing this thrilling time with you, Honey Pot! Much love!

    • Thank you, dear Merry – your faith in me is priceless. It really is. I don’t need fame. (I wouldn’t say no to modest success!!!)

      Really, I just want the book to be considered decent & helpful. I mean that with every mitochondria in every single cell I have. (Of course we all know that mitochondria are the energy factories of the cells. The energy currency for the work that we must do is the energy-rich molecule adenosine triphosphate a.k.a. ATP. The ATP is produced in the mitochondria using energy stored in food. Okay, okay, I had to Google it because I forgot!) I’m happy you like the website so far — thanks so much for visiting it and for signing up!

      I’m curious about “Turning Pro” and will check out Steven Pressfield on my Kindle! I love sharing the journey with someone like you who’s sweet as organic honey. And I should know all about honey because I’m your….

      Honey Pot!!!! XOOXO

      • I love science and if I’d had a better math education, would probably have majored in biology. Appreciate your comments about mitochondria and ATP. They’re curious little organelles—independent microbes eons ago that invaded cells and decided to stick around for the ride. Also, inherited only through the matrilineal legacy. Ever and always, I wish you the very best, Honey Pot! xxoo

  6. That Shetland series sounds promising. 🙂 Also, LOVE the look of your website! Very swanky and sparkly and all around awesome. Kitt and your daughter are right, too–that kind of media-crazed environment would NOT be cool for you. I sure as Hades would wilt under that kind of pressure, and I talk in front of strangers-I mean, students–for a living. Right now the PR for your book can be kept purely within your comfort zone, and you only have to stretch it a little at a time. A disguised blessing indeed! And now, dearest Queen of Beans, I’m off to sleepy-time. G’night, Dearest Friend! xxxxxxxx

    • I’m loving “Shetland” more and more! I think there’s a good chance you’d enjoy it, so if you get the chance, go for it, my kindred caffeinated spirit!

      Thanks for taking a peek at the website – I need to find a savvy pal ’round these parts who could help me make full use of all the bells and whistles available. I’m CLUELESS! 😉 I guess I could contact their custoemr service, come to think of it. There’s a thought!

      Re: PR – I envy Craig because he’s so relaxed doing public speaking, and he genuinely loves giving talks about his book & has a very cool PowerPoint presentation. He has some funny stories about his public speaking adventures I’d love to write about in a future post.

      Craig has done over 50 (!) of these book presentations, and he has two more events lined up this spring- and more invitations although the book has been out for a while. Sometimes Avonlea accompanies her dad and helps sell his books. She made bookmarks with the cover art on them – they’ve been a big hit! I don’t know what his secret is – he never did Toastmasters or anything like that! I’ve gotten up in front of large groups to speak, but I was extremely nervous to the point of shakig, and mega-depressed – um, not the greatest combo, is it?

      If I do a talk, if I have notes, maybe a PowerPoint, and a Q&A session (+ Rescue Remedy) and do it in one of my favorite libraries around here, maybe I could make it through without passing out….maybe. 😉

      • Oh I wish I knew how to help you on the website. When I redid mine, I did lots of google searches for tips with wordpress, and that helped. I’m sure someone’s got lots of tutorials on your website’s style, too!
        Wow! Craig HAS done a lot! Bo doesn’t speak in front of others often, but he’s got a very relaxed, humoring demeanor, so it doesn’t take long for him to get others chuckling. When I teach my students, I get downright whacky, but that’s because my class is really late at night and I’m overtired. Whacky beats whiny, I guess. 🙂
        Hey, starting local sounds like a brilliant idea—complete with new bookmarks by Avonlea! Ooooh, that sounds like a neat brand line 😉

  7. Just wanted to pop in quickly. Your site looks amazing! I really like the setup. It’s professional and easy to navigate. I’ll be back to catch up on your older posts soon. xoxo

    • Thanks so much for stopping by, darlin! The site needs work, but hey, it’s better than nothing and **thank you** for the compliment! 😉 Sending you hugs & love as always💗

    • You are too kind! My ego is now twice its size, but I can live with that! 😉 Thanks for brightening my evening!

      • I must compliment you on your site. You have powerful materials and pieces to be shared and heard. Please let me know how I can further assist you…

      • Wow, THANK YOU Mihran!!!

        I would love it if you could help me spread the word about my postparutm bipolar memoir “Birth of a New Brain” – that would be awesome It’s for pre-sale now on Amazon, but only in the paperback version – it’s not available for pre-sales on Kindle yet until the summer. It will be published October 10th.

        Maybe ove the summer we could touch base – perhaps you might include some info on your blog for anyone interested in mental health/bipolar/recovery stories?

        Thanks again – you are so sweet, and your kindness and generosity made my day! Have a fantastic weekend!

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