Author Marie Abanga’s “Darling Dyane, My Heroine”


Author/advocate Marie Abanga and I belong to our own special Mutual Admiration Society! It constantly amazes me how we’ve forged our bond living on opposite sides of the world, but I’m not that surprised after “meeting” some of you who live continents away from Chez Harwood.

Last night I cried reading a draft of this post that Marie emailed me; thank God they were happy tears!

The immortal words of Wayne and Garth: “We’re not worthy” (as said in the epic “Wayne’s World”) came to my mind while reading Marie’s post. It feels wonderful to be appreciated by someone in this way.

I suggest that this weekend (if you don’t have time to write a tribute post of your own, although there’s always the future. It’s fun to do; I’ve written a few myself.) consider taking some time to spread some warm fuzzies someone else’s way.

Marie didn’t know I had a particularly tough day when she sent me this draft. Her glowing compliments and appreciation went a long way in lifting me out of my own pity party.

Gestures can be small to make a difference. Believe it or not, I got a simple “heart” on a tweet this morning from Postpartum Support International that made me feel great! (It made me so happy that I decided to join their organization!)

Here’s a lower-cost act of kindness: the other day when I pulled over on the highway to let a speedster pass me, he turned on his emergency lights to “thank” me right after he passed my car, and my blood pressure went down a bit. Sometimes, small moves like that can make more of a difference than you’d imagine.

So, in the spirit of Merry Marie, I wish you all a good weekend and take care of yourselves. Let me know if you do any cool acts of kindness, even if they are teeny-tiny ones – sometimes those are the coolest ones of all.




Dyane’s memoir Birth of a New Brain – Healing from Postpartum Bipolar Disorder with a foreword by Dr. Walker Karraa (author of the acclaimed book Transformed by Postpartum Depression: Women’s Stories of Trauma and Growth) will be published by Post Hill Press in 2017.

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16 thoughts on “Author Marie Abanga’s “Darling Dyane, My Heroine”

  1. Kindness makes the world go around. I am so happy that you are so appreciated and that you realize it, and that someone took that time to let you know. ❤ You are lovely.

    I believe that the world can be changed by random small acts of kindness. Love to you.

    • Thanks so much, Kitt – you’re one of the bright lights who always makes me feel appreciated, and I’m incredibly grateful to youl. XOXOXO

  2. You’ve also made me feel so valued, Nicole – I’ll never forget the honor of being a part of your Mental Health Warrior Series on The Lithium Chronicles!!! You always lift me up with your words! You inspire me to take action! (Offensive Halloween Costumes, anyone?)

    Yes, you’re absolutely right about random small acts of kindness changing the world!
    I wish small acts of kindness were like apples, i.e. one a day keeps the doctor away! 😉
    Sending you love and hugs and I wish you a fabulous weekend!!!

  3. My daughter was diagnosed with bipolar 1 and suffered during her two birthings. She, too, is the most amazing person I have ever met. She sees and knows things that we other mere mortals don’t. What is it about bp people that makes them so special? She is so creative, producing an online jewellery business that is taking off, and attracts people towards her like bees to the honeypot. And, like you, she knows the value of kindness.

  4. Hmm, where was I the ‘Author’ all along to leave a comment on my lady’s generous reblog of my post? Ok, hiding in some corner writing some more. Yes Lady, mutual admiration society indeed 🙂 Yes Lady, you deserve it and so much more, seriously, soon california or wherever you are here I come (well maybe like in 12 months hahaha). Indeed, we all need such and when they are honest and from the heart heart heart, it make you feel gold gold gold 🙂

    • No worries – you showed up, right, my sweet? That’s what matters!!!!! And the fact that you were writing is an excellent reason. Sending you love love love….and more love!

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